Staying a happy couple during a home reno

September 13, 2018 by Len Canter, Healthday Reporter

(HealthDay)—Spending to make your home nicer, safer and more efficient can save you money in the long run, but it could cause stress in your relationship in the here-and-now.

In a survey done by the home design site Houzz, 46 percent of couples found that remodeling could lead to frustrating problems, and 12 percent were driven to consider a separation or divorce during the process.

Marriage therapists say that "remodeling " is a real issue with difficulties at every stage of a project, for reasons ranging from spiraling costs to stress from the disruption in your .

What's more, any tension stemming from a home improvement project can exacerbate problems that already existed within the relationship.

For a low-stress renovation, your first step should be agreeing on a budget, including a contingency amount to cover unexpected costs, which almost always come up.

Also, make sure you share the same overall vision, even if you each put different "must-haves" on your . Each partner should have input on the creative choices, too, so that no matter whose opinion prevails, both feel their views were aired and considered.

And even if you hire a general contractor, agree on your division of labor—decide who will be steering the and how decisions will be made. Therapists suggest that even more pre-planning is needed for do-it-yourselfers because tensions can run high when all the work pressure is on just the two of you.

There are sure to be bumps in the road to improvement, but these steps should help you navigate them more smoothly.

Explore further: Strategies for working through daily stress

More information: The website details six specific renovation jobs that can be especially problematic and should be approached with extra care.

Related Stories

Strategies for working through daily stress

August 23, 2018
Stress affects most Americans at one point or another. Although some people are genetically more susceptible to the stressors of daily life than others, most could benefit from learning how to lower that stress before it ...

Discrimination harms your health—and your partner's

December 7, 2017
Discrimination not only harms the health and well-being of the victim, but the victim's romantic partner as well, indicates new research led by a Michigan State University scholar.

Stress shared by same-sex couples can have unique health impacts

January 30, 2015
Studies of stress and its effects on health have typically focused on the worries of an individual: money, love, health, work. But what about stress shared by two people in a romantic relationship?

Date nights for overbooked parents

August 15, 2017
(HealthDay)—You might not think it's possible to squeeze a date night into your hectic schedule, especially if your family includes young children.

U.S. nursing home costs due to diabetes vary greatly by state

May 18, 2018
(HealthDay)—Diabetes-attributable nursing home costs are substantial, but vary greatly across the nation, according to a study published online May 14 in Diabetes Care.

Recommended for you

College students choose smartphones over food

November 16, 2018
University at Buffalo researchers have found that college students prefer food deprivation over smartphone deprivation, according to results from a paper in Addictive Behaviors.

Social media is affecting the way we view our bodies—and not in a good way

November 15, 2018
Young women who actively engage with social media images of friends who they think are more attractive than themselves report feeling worse about their own appearance afterward, a York University study shows.

Study finds mindfulness apps can improve mental health

November 15, 2018
A University of Otago study has found that using mindfulness meditation applications (apps) on phones is associated with improvements in people's mental health.

New research has revealed we are actually better at remembering names than faces

November 14, 2018
With the Christmas party season fast approaching, there will be plenty of opportunity to re-live the familiar, and excruciatingly-awkward, social situation of not being able to remember an acquaintance's name.

Older adults' abstract reasoning ability predicts depressive symptoms over time

November 14, 2018
Age-related declines in abstract reasoning ability predict increasing depressive symptoms in subsequent years, according to data from a longitudinal study of older adults in Scotland. The research is published in Psychological ...

The illusion of multitasking boosts performance

November 13, 2018
Our ability to do things well suffers when we try to complete several tasks at once, but a series of experiments suggests that merely believing that we're multitasking may boost our performance by making us more engaged in ...


Please sign in to add a comment. Registration is free, and takes less than a minute. Read more

Click here to reset your password.
Sign in to get notified via email when new comments are made.