Routine: less is often more when it comes to children's development

Routine: less is often more when it comes to children's development
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As a mother of three grown-up children, I vividly recall the panic I felt when the annual six-week summer school holidays approached. Weeks of potential chaos loomed ahead as the regular routines were disrupted. My psychological knowledge just added to the stress. Research consistently pointed to the importance of regular and stable routines in raising emotionally secure children.

My sympathies therefore immediately went out to all the parents who had to stay home indefinitely with their during the COVID-19 lockdown. More recent research findings continue to find links between household chaos, such as background noise or lack of , and adverse outcomes for children—from behavioral to academic.

But can there be such a thing as too much routine? And could it interfere with children's sense of independence and creativity?

Many parents (including myself), and especially those more affluent and "", often unknowingly adopt a "hyper" or "helicopter" parenting style. This involves planning the majority of their children's lives in detail, via structured classes and activities.

This has in fact become the norm within many social networks, and is reinforced by the commercial sector. Indeed, many children now expect their to consist of organized "enrichment" activities—artistic, educational, social and physical—such as dance classes or birthday parties. This in turn drives parents to continue to provide and support such activities.

But from the perspective of cognitive psychology, extremely rigid routines and heavy parental control is not always beneficial for children's development. That's because a fundamental part of growing up is learning how to tackle new challenges, going beyond predetermined routines.

We know that , the cognitive control mechanisms that support a number of higher-level processes including planning, multitasking and decision-making, are linked to important life outcomes. Studies have shown that the more time that children spend in less structured activities, such as playing on their own, the better their self-directed executive functioning. The opposite is true of overly structured activities, such as rule-driven sporting activities.

Controlling parenting in young childhood has also been found to reduce independence in adolescence. That's because children learn to manage their own time and develop important skills for healthy development during , such as self belief and confidence in their ability to achieve their own goals.

The benefits of boredom

Parents often believe that children growing up in today's byte-sized society have decreased attention spans and that organized activities can prevent them from getting bored.

But psychology suggests that boredom itself can be beneficial by acting as a motivating force, encouraging children to seek out new experiences. Boredom motivates our quest for meaning and exploration by promoting associative thoughts, which can in turn promote creative and intelligent thinking, as well as reflection.

Most people follow routines to some extent, because it saves us time and energy for important tasks. But parents who enforce extremely rigid routines in all aspects of life can lose opportunities to develop and use their own imagination and creativity, which could then brush off on their children. One study found that highly creative parents tend to have highly creative children—despite the fact that genetics accounts for only a small proportion of people's creativity. Instead, children seem to learn creativity from those around them.

Parental flexibility isn't just important for creativity. During the COVID-19 lockdown, it has also been linked to greater family bonds and constructive parenting. The lockdown may in fact have helped many to step back and evaluate their interests and work out how to share them with their children.

In many cases, this may have lead to a change in the repetitive nature of family routines, such as mealtimes. This need not have resulted in negative outcomes. Rather than mealtimes being predictable, with rushed and boring routines, there was opportunity for more family time. This allowed children to have more involvement in meal preparation, and more time for conversation, negotiation and play—something we know is beneficial.

In the UK, the helicopters are now beginning to take off again as children return to quasi-normality. But before we plan all our children's time to make up for lost education and "wasted time", we may want to reflect on some of the unexpected benefits of the unscheduled grounding.

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