Helping your kids cope with your divorce

June 14, 2017 by Joan Mcclusky, Healthday Reporter

(HealthDay)—Kids react to divorce in different ways. One may be sad and let schoolwork slip. Another might be anxious or angry and act out these feelings. A third might pretend not to have any feelings about it at all.

Here are steps you might take to help your navigate this difficult time for the entire family.

Before you actually tell your kids about the impending , practice what you'll say about your decision without any anger. You want to make clear that the divorce is not their fault, the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry states. If possible, both parents should be present. Be prepared to answer your kids' questions about how their lives will change, such as where everyone will live and whether they'll need to switch schools.

If you feel the need to criticize or blame your partner, do it away from home and the children and with a friend or a therapist. Don't share your anger with your children. Hearing your gripes can make kids feel as though you expect them to take sides.

Each parent should support the other's one-on-one time with the kids. Children who enjoy time with both parents won't feel like they have to love one parent more than the other. Keep as normal as possible. You may be tempted to relax the rules, but this can actually make kids more insecure. A regular routine reinforces the idea that mom and dad can be relied on for stability and care.

Finally, stay alert for signs of difficulty adjusting to the new family situation and talk to your pediatrician or a if needed.

Explore further: Pediatricians can help when parents divorce: report

More information: The Nemours Foundation has suggestions for helping children deal with divorce.

Related Stories

Pediatricians can help when parents divorce: report

November 28, 2016
(HealthDay)—A pediatrician can play an important part in helping children adjust when their parents split up, a new American Academy of Pediatrics report says.

Pet dogs help kids feel less stressed, study finds

May 10, 2017
Pet dogs provide valuable social support for kids when they're stressed, according to a study by researchers from the University of Florida, who were among the first to document stress-buffering effects of pets for children.

Expert offers tips on coping with divorce during the holidays

December 13, 2016
The holidays are usually a time when families gather together to eat, open gifts and catch up. However, for some families who have experienced a divorce, the holidays can be difficult. One Baylor College of Medicine expert ...

How to prepare your child for a new brother or sister

October 13, 2016
(HealthDay)—Wondering how to tell your kids a baby brother or sister is on the way and how they will react to the news?

Give kids a safe, stress-free holiday

December 21, 2016
(HealthDay)—With all the parties, outings and family gatherings during the holidays, it's easy for kids to get overwhelmed or lost in the shuffle, a leading group of pediatricians says.

How to put children ahead of broken relationships

September 26, 2016
University of Virginia psychology professor Robert Emery's message to divorcing couples is simple; parents should be parents so that kids can be kids.

Recommended for you

Researchers identify brain mechanism linking PTSD and opioid addiction

April 23, 2018
Researchers at Western University have shown that the recall of traumatic memories enhances the rewarding effects of morphine, shedding light on the neurobiological link between post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and opioid ...

Scientific guidelines for using cannabis to treat stress, anxiety and depression

April 19, 2018
In a first-of-a-kind study, Washington State University scientists examined how peoples' self-reported levels of stress, anxiety and depression were affected by smoking different strains and quantities of cannabis at home.

Neuroscientists use magnetic stimulation to amplify PTSD therapy

April 19, 2018
Researchers from The University of Texas at Dallas have found that a standard therapy for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is more effective when paired with transcranial magnetic stimulation of the brain.

Research reveals stronger people have healthier brains

April 19, 2018
A study of nearly half a million people has revealed that muscular strength, measured by handgrip, is an indication of how healthy our brains are.

Study suggests we can recognize speakers only from how faces move when talking

April 18, 2018
Results of a new study by cognitive psychologist and speech scientist Alexandra Jesse and her linguistics undergraduate student Michael Bartoli at the University of Massachusetts Amherst should help to settle a long-standing ...

Scientists disconfirm belief that humans' physiological reaction to emotions are uniform

April 18, 2018
How do you feel when you're angry? Tense? Jittery? Exhausted? Is it the same every time? Is it identical to how your best friend, co-worker, or barista feel when they experience anger? In all likelihood the answer is no, ...

1 comment

Adjust slider to filter visible comments by rank

Display comments: newest first

BubbaNicholson
1 / 5 (2) Jun 17, 2017
How about not getting divorced in the first place? Women who cannot detect a husband properly will seek another. Ditto for men. This pheromone receptivity can be disturbed by opioid addiction and alcoholism, but also by ozone in high concentration in breathed air. Ozone irritates chemoreceptive membranes behind the nose.
Women with feelings of divorce should kiss their fathers' faces, or collect 250mg of older adult male facial skin surface lipid pheromone and take it by mouth. The pheromone is mostly lipids, 735 different chemicals. Sebaleic acid is unique in all nature, sapienic acid is nearly as rare, they mark humans. With the skin surface lipid pheromone are primer pheromone receptor proteins that improve pheromone receptivity, and hence marital satisfaction.
The pheromone taken by mouth will cause jealousy in osculation partners as well as the patient herself. Isolation for 40 days can diminish that sub-pheromone effect.

Please sign in to add a comment. Registration is free, and takes less than a minute. Read more

Click here to reset your password.
Sign in to get notified via email when new comments are made.