Helping your kids cope with your divorce

June 14, 2017 by Joan Mcclusky, Healthday Reporter

(HealthDay)—Kids react to divorce in different ways. One may be sad and let schoolwork slip. Another might be anxious or angry and act out these feelings. A third might pretend not to have any feelings about it at all.

Here are steps you might take to help your navigate this difficult time for the entire family.

Before you actually tell your kids about the impending , practice what you'll say about your decision without any anger. You want to make clear that the divorce is not their fault, the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry states. If possible, both parents should be present. Be prepared to answer your kids' questions about how their lives will change, such as where everyone will live and whether they'll need to switch schools.

If you feel the need to criticize or blame your partner, do it away from home and the children and with a friend or a therapist. Don't share your anger with your children. Hearing your gripes can make kids feel as though you expect them to take sides.

Each parent should support the other's one-on-one time with the kids. Children who enjoy time with both parents won't feel like they have to love one parent more than the other. Keep as normal as possible. You may be tempted to relax the rules, but this can actually make kids more insecure. A regular routine reinforces the idea that mom and dad can be relied on for stability and care.

Finally, stay alert for signs of difficulty adjusting to the new family situation and talk to your pediatrician or a if needed.

Explore further: Pediatricians can help when parents divorce: report

More information: The Nemours Foundation has suggestions for helping children deal with divorce.

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BubbaNicholson
1 / 5 (2) Jun 17, 2017
How about not getting divorced in the first place? Women who cannot detect a husband properly will seek another. Ditto for men. This pheromone receptivity can be disturbed by opioid addiction and alcoholism, but also by ozone in high concentration in breathed air. Ozone irritates chemoreceptive membranes behind the nose.
Women with feelings of divorce should kiss their fathers' faces, or collect 250mg of older adult male facial skin surface lipid pheromone and take it by mouth. The pheromone is mostly lipids, 735 different chemicals. Sebaleic acid is unique in all nature, sapienic acid is nearly as rare, they mark humans. With the skin surface lipid pheromone are primer pheromone receptor proteins that improve pheromone receptivity, and hence marital satisfaction.
The pheromone taken by mouth will cause jealousy in osculation partners as well as the patient herself. Isolation for 40 days can diminish that sub-pheromone effect.

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